A study from Duke University revealed that teens and their doctors are not—or are barely—talking about sex, sexuality and dating. The study showed that teens and their doctors spend approximately 36 seconds talking about these topics. How is 36 seconds adequate time to talk about sex and sexuality? That is just crazy! Doctors know how important sexual health is, so why are so many of them avoiding the topic?

If your doctor isn’t bringing the topic of sex up, then you should. I know that talking about sex can be intimidating, but it is important to remember that your doctor is not there to judge you. Talking about sex with your doctor may be easier said than done, but that doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t try.

One of the best ways to start a conversation about sex may be to ask some questions. It probably won’t be the first time that your doctor has been asked a question about sex or sexual health. Some topics that you may want to ask questions about are safer sex methods, sexually transmitted diseases or birth control options. You don’t have to be embarrassed by your questions; you’re asking because you should be informed about all of these issues. They affect your health! And when you talk to your doctor, you’re asking someone who can give you accurate answers. Your doctor should be someone you can really trust—someone you have a comfortable and open relationship with. Although this conversation may be awkward, once it is over with, you’ll hopefully realize that it wasn’t that bad, and you will have all your questions answered!