How Being in a Long-Distance Relationship Prepared Me for Social Distancing
April 10, 2020
With all the social distancing happening because of the coronavirus, a lot of people haven’t had as much contact with their partner as they’d probably like. If you’re one of these people, I’ve got some tips as you navigate your relationship during this time. I’ve been in a long-distance relationship since my partner went to college about a year ago, and I’ve learned a few things that I think could be helpful!
Good morning and good night texts can help bridge the distance.
These simple texts can start and end your day with your partner, even if you can’t “see” or text each other that often.
Talking to your partner through a video call is a great way to talk to them face-to-face. It is probably the closest you can get right now to being in the same room. Whether you’re using FaceTime, Instagram, Skype or whatever platform is available to you, it’s a really nice way to feel like you’re together, even if it’s not in person.
Establish some boundaries.
Establishing boundaries with your partner about when and how you communicate is really important. Let them know if you’re busy or need some time for yourself. You are not neglecting your partner if you don’t respond for a little while because you’re busy. But you should tell them if you’re busy and not able to respond quickly. And when you can’t see your partner in person, you express your affection differently. Let your partner know what you like and what you don’t, and how that may differ from what you like in real life.
Try to be patient and understanding.
Getting used to practicing social distancing definitely takes some work. You and your partner may want to talk all the time, but that doesn’t mean you don’t both have other responsibilities. Try to be patient and think about the other responsibilities your partner could be taking care of right now, whether it’s homework, chores, practicing their sport or art, etc. Try to understand where your partner may be coming from if they want to talk to you about something that has been bothering them, especially during this time.
Little things count.
Keeping in touch with your partner throughout the day can help them feel involved in your life, whether they’re miles away or a street away and you can’t see them because of social distancing. Sending them a little text about something random or fun can be a nice reminder that you’re still there for them, even if you are apart.
Social distancing is definitely a change. This time is really confusing for all of us and social distancing can seem difficult, but that doesn’t mean that you have to feel far apart from your partner when you can’t see each other in person. Get creative, have fun and stay safe!