November 19, 2012
I’ve been thinking a lot lately about who I am and how I identify. And, I’ve realized that I’m transgender. Who I am physically—on the outside—isn’t the same as how I feel on the inside. I really feel more like a guy/a girl/that I don’t fit into a single category as a guy or girl. This is how I feel and who I am. I haven’t been able to be myself, but I want to be able to be me, which means being a guy/being a girl/not being one or the other in a way that feels right for me.
This might be really hard for you to hear, and maybe you need some more time to think about this, but it’s been really hard for me, too. I’m scared and nervous right now just thinking about how you’ll react. But, I love you, and I wanted to tell you. Your love and support are so important to me right now.
(You may not feel comfortable coming out to your parent as trans because you may fear for your safety. That is OK. You should never feel like you have to come out to someone, especially if you fear for your health and well-being. If you think that your parents may become abusive or kick you out of the house, you may want to consider waiting to come out to them until you are financially independent. We would never want you to put yourself in physical danger.)