I have HIV.
November 19, 2012
It’s been good hanging out lately, and it seems like things are headed toward us having sex. Before things go any further, you should know that I have HIV.
I know this is a lot to take in, but I wanted you to know sooner than later. I’m being treated by my doctor so I stay healthy. Obviously, I don’t want to pass HIV on to you. I understand if you just need some time to absorb this.
(This may be as far as the initial conversation goes as your partner takes in this news. There’s no way to know how your partner will react to this news, so be ready to give him or her some time and space to absorb what you said. It’s likely your partner will have questions, so it’s a good idea to have more information to share with him or her about HIV. Get more info on STDs on Sexetc.org or visit ASHA.org for more information on the transmission and treatment of HIV.)
(Later conversations could include the following.)
There are couples with one partner who is HIV positive and one who is not. If we consider having sex, it’s important that you get tested and know your status and we practice safer sex by using condoms and/or dental dams. Maybe we can talk to my doctor together about ways to prevent transmission. What do you think?