I have herpes.
It’s been good hanging out lately, and it seems like things are headed toward us having sex. Before things go any further, you should know that I have herpes. I don’t know how much you know about herpes, but it’s a virus so it’s not curable. I know this is a lot to take in, but I wanted you to know sooner than later.
I don’t know if you’ve been tested, but if not, you should be tested, too. I’d be happy to go to the clinic with you. We can find local, free or low-cost clinics on Sexetc.org.
I’m talking to you about this, because I don’t want to pass herpes to you. If we’re honest with each other about whether we’ve had STDs, we can both stay healthy. It’s important that if we have sex, we practice safer sex by using condoms and/or dental dams. Maybe we can talk to my doctor together about ways to prevent transmission. What do you think?
(There’s no way to know how your partner will react to this news, so be ready to give him or her some time and space to absorb what you said. It’s likely your partner will have questions, so it’s a good idea to have more information to share with him or her about herpes. Get more info on STDs on Sexetc.org or visit ASHA.org for more information on the transmission and treatment of herpes.)