Communication Tool

Communication Tool

Everyone says that talking about sexuality is important—and it is. But that doesn’t mean it’s easy! Even adults have a hard time talking about it.

Sometimes you may not know what to say to your boyfriend or girlfriend, a health care provider, a parent or guardian or any other adult when it comes to sexuality and sexual health. How do you approach these topics? Sex, Etc. can help!

Sex, Etc.’s Communication Tool gives you a place to start what are hopefully ongoing conversations. Below you can choose who you want to talk to, what you want to talk about and what you might want to say. We’ll suggest some ways to start the conversation along with some ideas about what to discuss. These aren’t scripts you should read word for word, but the language covers important issues to communicate about. So find what works for you in the suggestions below, and make the language your own.

Clear and healthy communication can be a challenge, but we’re making it a little bit easier!



what do you want to say?

I’m pregnant, and I don’t know what to do.

I have something serious I need to talk to you about. I’m really nervous and scared, so I really need you to stay calm and listen.

I missed my period last week. I took a pregnancy test, and it said I’m pregnant. I’m sure you are shocked, but right now I really just need your support. I’m scared, and I haven’t decided what to do about this pregnancy. I don’t know if I’m ready to be a parent or if I want to have an abortion or if maybe I should think about adoption.

I’m having a hard time. I could really use your input. What do you think?

I’m pregnant, and I want to arrange an adoption.

I have something serious I need to talk to you about. I’m really nervous and scared, so I really need you to stay calm and listen.

I missed my period last week. I took a pregnancy test, and it was positive. Even though I’m scared, I’ve decided what I want to do. I’ve thought a lot about this, and I want to arrange an adoption. This is a huge decision. That’s why I’m coming to you. I really need your support.

I’m pregnant, and I want to be a parent.

I have something serious I need to talk to you about. I’m really nervous and scared, so I really need you to stay calm and listen.

I missed my period last week. I took a pregnancy test, and it was positive. Even though I’m scared, I’ve decided what I want to do. I’ve thought a lot about this, and I want to be a parent. I know this is a huge decision. That’s why I’m coming to you. I really need your support.

I’m pregnant, and I want to have an abortion.

I have something serious I need to talk to you about. I’m really nervous and scared, so I really need you to stay calm and listen.

I missed my period last week. I took a pregnancy test, and it was positive. Even though I’m scared, I’ve decided what I want to do. I’ve thought a lot about this, and I want an abortion. This is a huge decision. This is why I’m coming to you. I really need your support.

(Depending on the laws in your state you may need to notify your parents or get their consent before you get an abortion. You can check out Sex in the States to find out the laws in your state.)

My girlfriend is pregnant.

I have something serious I need to talk to you about. [Partner’s name]’s took a pregnancy test, and she’s pregnant. This might be a surprise to you, but right now I really just need your support. She knows that she wants to ___________. I could really use your help.

(Let your parent or guardian know what your girlfriend plans to do and how you feel about it. Let your parent or guardian know how he or she can support you.)

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